Practice when it works for you!

There are 4 fundamental components that can give you a life free from triggers, reactivity, hopelessness and isolation. They help rewire circuits in your brain so you can access your own wisdom to grow, develop & flourish.  

It's what I learned using meditation skills for over 30 years to heal myself-- then becoming a psychotherapist, and a best selling book author to help thousands of others.

Of those, there's one that allows us to cultivate solid inner ground. That one is self-compassion.

This is what I realized when my own trauma history came up while living for years in a yoga ashram. 

I learned this path the hard way -- dealing with my own trauma history while also being a long term meditator whose trauma history would erupt during my practices.  

It was hard. How was I able to be in my body before (training for triatholons, practicing yoga and meditation multiple hours a day) to then not wanting to get out of bed, lost and confused?

I wanted to know how to put it all together.

If all the great wisdom traditions said there was a path out of suffering... well then I wanted that path! 

I wanted the way. Not just when I was feeling good. I wanted to know how to apply those great traditions when I wasn't feeling good.

As I grappled with the complications I had to break down the great teachings, as well as modern neuroscience and psychtherapeutic approaches, adapting them to my situation. 

I wanted back into my body. I wanted to live inside myself without overwhelming trauma symptoms. 

I wanted the peace, calm, and contentment that all the wisdom traditions say are possible -- and that I had before my trauma complicated my practices.

Along the way I discovered the four components that meditation and good psychotherapy have in common. 

And I realized, at the heart of the matter, is self-compassion. 

Self-compassion is the ground out of which all other elements arise.

Taking what I know from my own healing I explored finding ways to take these important meditation components, breaking them down into simple, easy to use, evidence-based skills that helped calm my body, ease my mind, and open my heart. 

This is what I want to empower you with in this retreat: self-compassion.

Step by step, the more your body takes in and absorbs self-compassion the more you'll have a solid inner ground.

As a foundational skill it can help you in every aspect of your life. These skills are the platform for the Becoming Safely Embodied Skills which have helped thousands of clients over the past twenty years. In fact, Janina Fisher (the internationally renowned trauma expert) referred her clients to the group because "they get better faster." 

That's what I want for you, as well, to get better faster. 

I want for all of us to have a life of ease, contentment, where it's safe to explore the world, where we feel seen, know that we belong, where we can love and be loved. 

Step by step. Building blocks take you to a self-compassionate life.

"I always understood with my head what self-compassion was but until I took the course with you I had no idea how to put it into practice."

~ Andy (Ireland)

"Even though you explored some tough and deep questions here, because of the gentleness, care, compassion and patience in your voice, I could feel a kind of drive and excitement in me - wanting to explore these questions. Usually I would have felt hugely overwhelmed, causing me to be frantic and anxious. But instead I feel calm, excited in a good way, settled, and content. (Yay!)"

~ Beth (Poland)

There is no one way. There's only your way.

The program was amazing and I see myself listening to the audios over and over again. 

I like knowing I can return to the audios at any time and I love hearing what others have to say and your responses. It helps knowing we are all on the path together. Blessings to you, Deirdre.

~Rose (Nova Scotia)

Register for the Cultivate Self-Compassion Online Retreat

Price: $297

Cultivate Self-Compassion Online Retreat Experience

Living from your heart, your true center of gravity, while Releasing Self-Criticism, Self-Blame & Self-Judgment, gives you access to your caring heart

* Positive mental health or well-being protects against negative states of mind

* Self-compassion continuously provides a warm, accepting and kind approach for negative experiences

* Cultivate resilience 

* Research shows that people practicing self-compassion feel better and function better in their lives

Enjoy the adaptive emotion regulation strategy that protects against depression, anxiety, stress and other states/behaviors we later regret.

You can do the retreat at your own pace and in your own time. The entire retreat has been recorded so you won't miss a moment. 

"The course has helped me feel stronger, as though something inside had changed. I feel like each time I apply the practices I make a small step towards becoming more detached from whatever was so troubling...I move closer to feeling safe in my body and heart.

I can only think it is because you have been unflinchingly understanding and supportive." 

~ Mary (Perth, Australia)

"One of the best parts of the course was knowing that there were others like me. 

Reading what they wrote, how you interacted with them on the calls, your responses online, seeing them try on different practices and noticing the changes people were having helped me take the steps I needed to. Thank you!"

 ~Nick, (UK)

"The audios were astonishing, mainly because they seemed to answer questions I've been sitting with. 

Afterwards I felt remarkably calm and peaceful even the first time I played it. Thank you for doing this."

~ Madeline (Egypt)

Register for the Cultivate Self-Compassion Online Retreat

Price: $297

Here's what you’ll get out from this pre-recorded retreat:

LEARN NEW SKILLS

* Simple, easy to use, evidence-based skills to calm your body, ease your mind, and open your heart 


* Recordings that you can download and use at your own pace

AUDIO PRACTICES

* Simple, easy to use practices that you can apply to your everyday life, whether you're walking to work, standing in line, sitting quietly or wherever you like

* Download mp3 recordings of each of the practices so you have them whenever you want them

* All available for you 24/7 - on any connected device AND at your convenience

PRIVATE COURSE PORTAL

* Where all the audios & videos are stored for you 

* Take some time from your busy inner and outer world to retreat and cultivate self-compassion

* Learn from others on the path, gain from their wisdom as they unlock their journey forward

* Revel in the connection of like-hearted others

One of the joys of my life is seeing people interact with each other, supporting, encouraging, engaging with kindness, compassion, and goodness.

Believe in yourself.

Cultivate Self-Compassion Retreat [virtual]

* This is a pre-recorded, virtual self-compassion retreat where I will be guiding you to develop practices to support your healing

* I'll slowly walk you through the practices so you can gently engage with them through your body, mind, & heart


Registration Information 

We've got your back!

You won't miss anything! Everything is recorded.  

That's the best part of doing the retreat online -- no travel, no worries about getting every word before the speaker moves on! The material is yours to go over and over. The practices are recorded so you can have them when it's convenient for you. 

Join Deirdre in cultivating self-compassion

~ Deirdre's story

I’m Deirdre Fay, I know this world of healing trauma intimately from my own trauma history. It’s because of my history that I have become an expert in healing trauma through the body, heart and mind.

It was during the 80s, during years of meditating, practicing yoga, and being physically active, that my own history crashed in on me. Trauma memories flooded in. Overwhelmed me. It was a crazy time. I found myself wanting to hide, not meditate, nor be in my body.

Yet I kept thinking of the ancient wisdom traditions that I was so immersed in – that say there is a path out of suffering. While I was deep in it I realized the only thing that made the process worth it was finding a way to help others.

It wasn’t enough to do it for myself!

It took a bit of time but drawing on those traditions I found a path out of suffering; found a path into living easily in my body.

Since then I’ve taught workshops around the world, written three books, and offer online courses to help you (and in some cases, people you may work with) to stop being triggered on a recurring basis.

Join the retreat and savor the experience of self-compassion

Informed Consent: You understand that this workshop is not psychotherapy, doesn’t presume to be psychotherapy, and won’t be used as psychotherapy. This is a pre-recorded retreat; it is not a live online event.

Cancellation Policy: Your satisfaction with the Cultivate Self-Compassion Online Retreat is our highest priority! We offer a satisfaction guarantee so you never have to second guess yourself. Here's our cancellation policy for the Cultivate Self-Compassion Online Retreat : Full refunds for three days after you purchase: by emailing support@dfay.com. Starting with the fourth day after purchase, no refunds are available, with no exceptions. 

Grievance Policy: The Safely Embodied Network seeks to ensure equitable treatment of every person and to make every attempt to resolve grievances in a fair manner. Please submit a written grievance to Deirdre Fay at 508 Belmont St., #1, Watertown, MA 02472. Grievances will initially be directed to the training instructor or CEO. Grievances would receive, to the best of our ability, corrective action in order to prevent further problems. If you have questions or concerns, contact Deirdre Fay at support@dfay.com.  

If you have any outstanding questions about this Cultivate Self-Compassion Online Retreat, please email us at support@dfay.com.